Hello my loves and welcome back! This week, we will be talking about the misconceptions found in one of the classics that everyone seems to love; The Titanic. Majority of us have seen this movie and some of us may even consider it one of our favorites. That being said, I’m going to do what I do best and show you why this is definitely a movie you should avoid when in a relationship or getting into one.
For those of you who don’t know what the Titanic is, here is all that you need to know about the movie:
A rich girl and a poor boy fall in love with one another on a ship, lovey-dovey stuff happens while she’s engaged to be married on said ship, she throws some jewelry into the ocean, the ship sinks, and she’s alive at the end to tell their love story…….
Did y’all noticed how I said SHE’S alive at the end and not THEY!!!! Hold onto that for me.
Just to inform you my loves, I got information about the misconceptions found in this movie and in his relationship from my guy friend Frankie. I made him re-watch the movie while he’s oversees in the Marines and I got my ass chewed out. Not only did he forget how cheesy the movie was, but apparently, I made all those misconceptions about relationships come back to the forefront of his mind. That being said, Let’s start with how Rose and Jack meet shall we?
From this moment, the very moment they met, I knew this movie had to gooooooo. From this clip alone, the main misconceptions is that you’ll start a romance with someone you meet in distress because it’s love at first sight. LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT IT NOT REAL!! According to Frankie and myself, this is complete bullshit.
In what world do you see someone doing this, trying to jump off of a moving ship that is, and think, yup, this is the one for me? Let me help you out….YOU DON’T!!
In my opinion, she’s clearly showing signs of being unwell and needing professional help. In Frankie’s words, she’s batshit crazy but he’s crazier. If someone is showing signs right off the bat that they may need psychiatric help, it may be in you best interest to heed those signs.
The misconception is that love at first sight is real…..in any context. This is completely inaccurate. Love at first isn’t something that happens, but lust at first sight is. This simply means that, when we first meet someone, we are not in love with them, but we are attracted to them. Its the whole reason we begin to talk to someone; because they appeal to our personal tastes and preferences, not because we are in love with them.
In Frankie’s case, he met his EX girlfriend at a bar right before he left for bootcamp. Her nickname was Ginger, for obvious reasons like her hair, and she literally punched someone in the face…..Make your own judgement but I was deadass like:
As I was there and told him he probably shouldn’t talk to her, this man thought she was “hot” and he said he was “in love” because she showed strength and whatever other nonsense he said. Fast forward to three months later, Frankie comes to me and tells me this relationship isn’t working out because she’s super aggressive and loves to fight (verbally and physically). I look at him and ask him if he loved her, he says, “well no but you have to admit she was hot when we met her.”
Other than being a tool, he totally proved my point that we all talk to someone in the beginning because we are attracted to them physically, not because we LOVE them!
Ever heard that love is a strong and powerful word??? If that’s the case, why do we look at movies like this one and see how nonchalantly they throw that word around?! How is it that we just proved that love at first sight is not really what happens, but lust at first sight is, but somehow, Jack is said to be in love with Rose from that very moment he saved her life??? Please my loves, understand that, not only should heed warning signs when meeting someone for the first time, but also, don’t believe that love at first sight is a real thing!
Look at this nonsense below please.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3pg27yqk3s
OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! Back to when I said she lives and he dies. This. This right here is the example of trifling. When you’re in a relationship, you’re suppose to comprise and provide for one another, not sacrifice. I made this argument last time that sacrifice in a relationship is a misconception, however, the new misconception is thinking that the MAN must sacrifice when in times of danger as well.
We learned that sharing is caring, we also know that when were in relationships, what’s yours is mine and all that junk. Sooooo why when this man is clearly dying from the freezing temperatures of the water, sis is letting him float in the water instead of taking turns or something? Because, as women, we think that as the “man” they must provide us with safety and comfort. While this is semi- true, the rules get a little foggy when we’re in life threatening situations!
Fellas, we expect a certain level of safety, care, and protection from you, however, YOU BETTER CALL YOUR PARTNER OUT IF THEY’RE BEING SELFISH! Pleas my loves, understand that you cannot expect your partners, especially your men, to sit there and out you first in all life threatening situations. Sharing is caring and being selfish is not appropriate.
Alright my loves, we are at the end of this lovely post and I just wanted to say, I hope you gained some knowledge from it! Misconceptions on relationships are placed in a some of our favorite movies and, while being unsuspecting, we try to integrate them into said relationships. Please know that breaking these misconceptions will only help you in the long run and, hopefully, prevent you from losing a loved one because you can’t share the log ya’ll floating on. #TeamJack
Don’t Watch These Movies! 
I loved this movie! However, Titanic was so unrealistic!!! I also don’t believe in love at first sight and when I watched this movie I was just like oh god I can’t believe they’re about to do this. Also, Jack’s DEATH OMG. THEY BOTH COULD HAVE FIT AND STAYED AFLOAT. But I totally agree that it leads to a misconception that the man will sacrifice or should and not that is not always true.
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LOL jack’s death was the moment I came to the realization that some women are terrible in relationships! “I’ll never let you go Jack”…..AS SHE PROCEEDS TO LET HIM GO!!!! Other than that digression, I’m glad you found my post to be understandable and the point to be clear!
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I honestly was cringing the entire time I watched The Titanic. I think everything was just so extra and definitely unrealistic. And I agree with you on how unfair it was that Rose literally watched Jack die. In my opinion, if you truly do love someone I don’t think you could ever move on with your life after knowing you just watched them die… but that’s just me.
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HAHAHAH it’s not just you, trust me! first, she’s not traumatized by it at all and, while everyone does not deal with grief in the same way, sis definitely seems pretty okay after the whole ordeal. I’ mean, she’s telling everyone her love story instead of thinking about how they could both survive or die together back then lol smh.
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I will admit to liking this particular cheesy movie. That said, I did have fun reading this post, and was more than a little shocked at how vitriolic your feelings against the movie were.
Another very strong and fun post, keep them up, just remember to proof read for accuracy and spelling a little more closely (and for the record, there is not article in front of the title of the movie, it’s just “Titanic”).
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I think its an awesome movie tbh! The love part, not so much lol! I’m glad you enjoyed reading this post, even if it is one you really like. Its hard for me to write sometimes because all of the movies I have picked, I actually enjoyed watching at one point or another! Also, will totally work on it! (I’m a terrible speller and sometimes even google and wordcheck don’t know how to help me lmaoooo). Thank you for the feedback and the interesting fact that I was completely unaware of! People say “The Titanic” so often you start to think thats the actual title lol!
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Thank you for this post! I was looking forward to the Titanic post 🙂 I never really looked into the first scene where Jack and Rose meet, but now I’m keeping a close eye on it whenever I watch the movie again. I guess the movie does hold unrealistic expectations, as I never believed in the “love at first sight” bs anyway. I do agree with what you said about only talking to someone at first sight because we find them attractive though. I liked reading about your friend Frankie, it’s nice when you share these anecdotes. And yes, Jack should’ve lived!
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Ahhhh, here you are my friend!!! I was going to shout you out but it wouldn’t let me at you, which I thought was weird since it lets us do so much on this site!! Please do look more closely at their, while adorable, completely unrealistic love story ahah. I’m glad you liked the tidbit on Frankie! He’s going to get a big head when I tell him people actually enjoyed listening about him *rolls eyes* lol. Team Jack FOREVER
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I did love this movie because of how extra it is, but definitely agree that it gives total false expectations when it comes to love. It’s definitely hard to believe in love at first sight considering all that really is the physical attraction without knowing literally anything about this person. As you said about Rose… they could be batshit crazy for all you know. I love how much you put your personality and emotions into your blog and share experiences that you or your friends have.
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Thank you so much for the feedback! I’m honestly so happy to hear that you can actually get a sense of my personality from my posts! That’s my ultimate goal and to know I’m accomplishing it makes me happy!! Also, if you love the experiences I share about me or my friends, than keep looking out because honestly, we have too many and its about toe get REAL lol 🙂
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I love, love, loved your post! I have never watched this movie, and one of the main reasons is because of the whole Rose lives and Jack dies thing. Reading your post has further solidifies my intention of not watching it anytime in the near future. In addition, I just don’t understand the point of sitting through a cheesy movie that is going to have a tragic ending. Lol. And yea, I completely agree with you on the point that there is no such thing as “Love at first sight.” I just think its an immature approach to a relationship and plain childish. Also, what is with the whole “the man has to take care of the woman” thing? I think its only fair that in a relationship, both the good and bad have to be equally shared by both parties involved. Thoroughly enjoyed this post. Can’t wait for your next post!
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I’m so happy to hear you loved my post! I will say, while you shouldn’t watch it if you’re in a relationship or thinking about getting into one, its a GREAT movie to watch at some point in your life. Just go in without trying to add those misconceptions to your life and you should be good! And yes!!! Equal rights in all things!!!!! Relationships also!
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Damn I thought the only reason why I would be a bad movie for relationships was cause it was cheesy. As I kept reading I was agreeing with all your points. Your thoughts on the end scene, where Rose sacrifices Jack were on point imo. Both sides of a relationship should provide and care for his or her partner.
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Lol, you stick with me, I’ll show you things you never thought to look for in these movies! I agree with you that both sides of a relationship should provide care for his or her partner! Also, if one has to die in a shipwreck, we both do….LMAOOOOOO
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I think there’s a general misconceptions of seeing Hollywood fictions as accurate realities. Yet, exploring the nuances in a film can tell us more about the way we structure our society than a lot of things. I do agree with your points and misconceptions, but I think it is best to consider how their story is an idealized one, not an accurate representation of the day-to-day lives of people like us, imagine me in a 20th century cruiser transversing the Atlantic in 3rd class, or love at first sight, as you said, not going to happen.
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Lol i totally agree with you about the statement on the 20th century cruiser examples! But also, don’t you think it is kinda an accurate representation of the day-to-day lives of people like us since this is based on a true story. So also, wouldn’t it be safe to assume that if they did this so many years ago in an actual event, there could be an event in which is the same or similar which, after watching this, may cause us to think/do the same things?
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