Relationship Suicide

Hello my loves ❤ This week, we will be focusing on the negative aspects of relationships and how they are perpetuated in the movie Suicide Squad! By focusing on the unhealthy, and somewhat abusive, relationship of Harley Quinn and the Joker, we will understand how this movie is NOT recommended if you’re in a relationship or thinking about getting in one.

I want to say two things before we start! One, there may not be as much humor as there will be with my future blogs, simply because this is a serious topic. Two, this week was very hard for me because I actually like this couple, just like many people do. That statement alone is one of the very reasons you should try to stay away from this movie when in a relationship. For us to glorify a couple who is dysfunctional and unhealthy can very easily shape the way we view our own relationships, as well as, prevent us from changing the relationship if it lines up perfectly with Harley Quinn and the Joker’s relationship. Whether we are conscious of these thoughts or not, watching this couple can cause misconceptions in relationships to arise.

For those of you who don’t know what this movie is about, allow me to enlighten you!

Suicide Squad is a movie about a secret agency who puts together a team of super-villains to fight crime after Superman dies. The agency believes this is a win-win situation because of three reasons:

1. If the villains die, no one will miss them anyhow.
2. If they mess up, the agency can say they escaped and have no responsibility over them.
3. If they succeed, the agency has a group of villains they can control while stopping the destruction of the world.

And while all of that stuff is going on, Harley Quinn and the Joker’s love story is brought to life! Take a look!

You know how they say you shouldn’t date people you work with? ….I think the same should apply for dating patients. My girl Harley really falls in love with the Joker, her whole patient, and gives him access to guns in order to shoot up the place she works at. On top of that, this man goes and tortures her after she helped him out….men really ain’t shit!

I sat down with my cousin, who wishes to remain anonymous, and had her talk to me about her past relationship. The reason I did this is because she was previously in an abusive relationship and she was the one who actually suggested I do Suicide Squad. According to her, this is one movie that does a good job showing you what you shouldn’t want in a relationship, but somehow, has you expecting to see those things in said relationship.

After talking to my cousin and us working together to create this post, she thought it was best to break these misconceptions that are portrayed in the movie. The list is as followed:

1. You do not have to be with someone just because they stripped you of your identity and you feel lost.
2. There is a difference between sticking up for your significant other and being possessive.
3. You do not have to sacrifice yourself for your partner’s benefit.

Part 1

Just like what the Joker did to Harley, people do to their significant others everyday. While his style was a little more unconventional and cruel, including torturing her and things of that nature, it is still very much something that happens in this world. You should not go around thinking that you are supposed to be completely changed, to the point you’re basically a new person. Someone who takes the time to strip you of your identity does not really want to be with you, and instead, wants to turn you into something that they want. This is applicable for both men and women. There are millions of people in this world and while someone is taking the time to rip you apart and put you back together the way they want, there is someone out there who is ready to hold you together and help you grow to where you want. Harley chose to stay with Mr. Jay because she lost who she really was and instead became what he wanted. You do not have to suffer the same fate in your relationships. Be strong and find yourself again. ❤

Part 2

Please understand, it is important to know the difference between possessiveness and someone sticking up for you. I personally find it important to stick up for and defend your significant other, however, I also find that there is such a thing as too much. Every situation is different and so I think it is important that you understand that it is okay to want your partner to protect and defend you, but you shouldn’t expect them to go around killing people like the Joker does. Because of the unhealthy relationship they have, Harley finds comfort in knowing that the Joker will kill for her. That is a misconception you should move away from in your own relationship. The only real explanation as to why you should shy away from it is because it is completely unrealistic and un well of you to expect your significant other to go to such extremes in certain situations.

It should alarm you if your partner purposely creates a situation in which they have to resort to harm, the way the Joker does in the clip. This means that the situation has less to do with protecting you and making you feel comfortable, and more to do with them wanting control over the situation and an excuse to harm another. My cousin informed me of a time where her ex beat a man simply for looking at her too long. Situations like these are more worrisome than they are helpful. Please, make sure you get that as men and women we have the right to defend our partners, and that is something we should hope for when in a relationship, but there is a certain level to what we should be expecting.

Part 3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTYM78H6HMo

In addition to the first movie clip, we have this clip that shows exactly what misconception you should break: That you need to sacrifice yourself for your partner.

Love is love and someone who truly loves you will not ask you to sacrifice things in order to prove yourself to them. There is no reason for you to expect for someone to sacrifice themselves for you the way the movie depicts. Compromise is what is needed in relationships, not sacrifice. My cousin sacrificed her family and friends in order to please her significant other. She had no contact with us and we never saw her. Til’ this day she tries hard to connect back with the sacrifice she made so she can get a part of her back. You should not sacrifice yourself, or expect your significant other to sacrifice themselves in order to make yourself happy. Harley Quinn sacrificed her job, her mind, her identity, her life, her freedom, and her sanity to be with the Joker… How much have you sacrificed or will you sacrifice to be with another?

For those of you who read this all the way through and stuck it out with me, thank you my loves ❤ It may have not been as humorous as expected, but just like there are good times in relationships, there are dark times too. In order for my blog to make any sense, I need to cover all aspects of relationships so you guys are better equipped with what misconceptions you should break. I hope that for those of you who are or have experienced and unhealthy and abusive relationship like Harley Quinn and the Joker’s (look at the comic books and old cartoons to see just how twisted they are), you understand that there options.

Below, I have provided both websites and hotlines where you could go if you ever find that the negative aspects of your relationship outweigh the positives greatly.

National Domestic Violence Hotline 

https://www.thehotline.org

tel:+18007997233

tel:18007873224

Day One Services

https://dayoneservices.org/abusive-relationships/

tel:+18662231111 call

sms://+6123999995 text