Welcome back my loves!! ❤ Spooky Szn is officially over and now, it’s back to our regularly scheduled program of movies that don’t give me anxiety LMAO. I must admit, this is one of those movies that has a special place in my heart and, if I had to say, is at the top of my list for cheesy, guilty pleasure movies. That being said, it was hard deciding to pick this movie, however, it’s a perfect example of a movie NOT to watch when in, or thinking about getting in, a relationship. So, without further or do, get ready to learn about the misconceptions present in, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before.

For those of you who haven’t seen this movie, below is a description of all you need to know:

A cute, to herself girl. A whole box of letters to previous loves. A whole lot of drama. A hot, kind boy. A fake relationship with shy girl and hot boy. A bunch of real emotions. A whole lot of drama again. A revelation moment. A happy ever after.

Now, while this movie is a great teen movie to watch to get butterflies all over again, it is filled with a lot of misconceptions that need to be broken. The first one can be found in the clip below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gglVQgCsyqE

Do you know how many times I have waited for a hot boy to come up to me and ask me to be his pretend girlfriend so that, eventually, he can see he loves me and we can then, live happily ever after in a real relationship?!?!?!?! Sadly, to many times to count and this movie here, does a great job bringing those misconceptions back to light. We must start to understand that just because things happen in movies, it does not mean they will happen in real life.

The misconception found here is that you will have a chance like this in high school, or any time in your life, for this type of proposition to happen to you. I know its hard to grasp but, unless you’re apart of an escort service or helping your friend out with their strict/crazy parents, the chances of this happening are slim to known. I know most of you are saying, “this could happen” and blah blah blah, but we all know the truth. I’m still waiting for someone to tell me that this has happened to them.

We must understand that high school scenarios in movies like this aren’t actually high school scenarios, and they definitely, will not find there way to adulthood either. We all wait throughout high school, and even as adults, to find ourselves in a scenario like this. The truth of the matter is, watching movies like this have you hoping and dreaming for things that, more often that not, never happen. I’m still waiting for a Peter Kavinsky to sweep me off my feet and proposition me with the relationship of a lifetime.

Let’s take a look at another clip!!

Peter and Lara Jean’s first party together is one those perfect moments where I can call out another misconception!!!! First, did anyone notice how NICE that house was?!?! Like wth! Compared to our basement parties, adult parties, and even high school parties at someone’s house, I’ve never seen a house that nice for a high school party. But that’s just me.

The misconception here is that, it’s okay to put just about anything on social media. Do you see how many times both Lara Jean and Peter take pictures of one another, and then, post it on their social media? Is this far fetched from our society today? I think not.

We, as a technologically advanced society, have continuously placed the “better” versions of ourselves on social media. This movie is showing you how both individuals knowingly put versions of one another on their social media, even though the versions they put up, aren’t actually true.

We must understand that we don’t always have to put things on social media. Also, we must comprehend that when in a relationship, we don’t always need to broadcast said relationship on our social media. More often than not, we look to social media for validation and acknowledgment that our relationships are real and happy. Breaking this misconception, that social media needs to be a considered aspect go your relationship, will help make your relationship less structured and planned, and instead, more natural.

Finally, you can see that, while certain movies are great ones to watch, when in a relationship or thinking of getting into one, they should be avoided. You must break the misconceptions that:

1. social media is an important aspect of relationships
2. that we can expect for the same situations that are found in movies to happen in real life

Once these misconceptions are broken, you’ll find that you’re relationship will be better off and, you may fin yourself a Lara Jean or Peter Kavinsky in a more realistic way!