Hello my loves and welcome back! This week, we will be talking about the misconceptions found in one of the classics that everyone seems to love; The Titanic. Majority of us have seen this movie and some of us may even consider it one of our favorites. That being said, I’m going to do what I do best and show you why this is definitely a movie you should avoid when in a relationship or getting into one.

For those of you who don’t know what the Titanic is, here is all that you need to know about the movie:

A rich girl and a poor boy fall in love with one another on a ship, lovey-dovey stuff happens while she’s engaged to be married on said ship, she throws some jewelry  into the ocean, the ship sinks, and she’s alive at the end to tell their love story…….

Did y’all noticed how I said SHE’S alive at the end and not THEY!!!! Hold onto that for me.

Just to inform you my loves, I got information about the misconceptions found in this movie and in his relationship from my guy friend Frankie. I made him re-watch the movie while he’s oversees in the Marines and I got my ass chewed out. Not only did he forget how cheesy the movie was, but apparently, I made all those misconceptions about relationships come back to the forefront of his mind. That being said, Let’s start with how Rose and Jack meet shall we?

From this moment, the very moment they met, I knew this movie had to gooooooo. From this clip alone, the main misconceptions is that you’ll start a romance with someone you meet in distress because it’s love at first sight. LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT IT NOT REAL!! According to Frankie and myself, this is complete bullshit.

In what world do you see someone doing this, trying to jump off of a moving ship that is, and think, yup, this is the one for me? Let me help you out….YOU DON’T!!

In my opinion, she’s clearly showing signs of being unwell and needing professional help. In Frankie’s words, she’s batshit crazy but he’s crazier. If someone is showing signs right off the bat that they may need psychiatric help, it may be in you best interest to heed those signs.

The misconception is that love at first sight is real…..in any context. This is completely inaccurate. Love at first isn’t something that happens, but lust at first sight is. This simply means that, when we first meet someone, we are not in love with them, but we are attracted to them. Its the whole reason we begin to talk to someone; because they appeal to our personal tastes and preferences, not because we are in love with them.

In Frankie’s case, he met his EX girlfriend at a bar right before he left for bootcamp. Her nickname was Ginger, for obvious reasons like her hair, and she literally punched someone in the face…..Make your own judgement but I was deadass like:

As I was there and told him he probably shouldn’t talk to her, this man thought she was “hot” and he said he was “in love” because she showed strength and whatever other nonsense he said. Fast forward to three months later, Frankie comes to me and tells me this relationship isn’t working out because she’s super aggressive and loves to fight (verbally and physically). I look at him and ask him if he loved her, he says, “well no but you have to admit she was hot when we met her.”

Other than being a tool, he totally proved my point that we all talk to someone in the beginning because we are attracted to them physically, not because we LOVE them!

Ever heard that love is a strong and powerful word??? If that’s the case, why do we look at movies like this one and see how nonchalantly they throw that word around?! How is it that we just proved that love at first sight is not really what happens, but lust at first sight is, but somehow, Jack is said to be in love with Rose from that very moment he saved her life??? Please my loves, understand that, not only should heed warning signs when meeting someone for the first time, but also, don’t believe that love at first sight is a real thing!

Look at this nonsense below please.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3pg27yqk3s

OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! Back to when I said she lives and he dies. This. This right here is the example of trifling. When you’re in a relationship, you’re suppose to comprise and provide for one another, not sacrifice. I made this argument last time that sacrifice in a relationship is a misconception, however, the new misconception is thinking that the MAN must sacrifice when in times of danger as well.

We learned that sharing is caring, we also know that when were in relationships, what’s yours is mine and all that junk. Sooooo why when this man is clearly dying from the freezing temperatures of the water, sis is letting him float in the water instead of taking turns or something? Because, as women, we think that as the “man” they must provide us with safety and comfort. While this is semi- true, the rules get a little foggy when we’re in life threatening situations!

Fellas, we expect a certain level of safety, care, and protection from you, however, YOU BETTER CALL YOUR PARTNER OUT IF THEY’RE BEING SELFISH! Pleas my loves, understand that you cannot expect your partners, especially your men, to sit there and out you first in all life threatening situations. Sharing is caring and being selfish is not appropriate.

Alright my loves, we are at the end of this lovely post and I just wanted to say, I hope you gained some knowledge from it! Misconceptions on relationships are placed in a some of our favorite movies and, while being unsuspecting, we try to integrate them into said relationships. Please know that breaking these misconceptions will only help you in the long run and, hopefully, prevent you from losing a loved one because you can’t share the log ya’ll floating on. #TeamJack