Hello my loves!! Yes, I did mean for the title to look that way so, please don’t try to come at my grammar/spelling! Thanks 🙂 Second, we’re going to talk all about those misconceptions found within Forgetting Sarah Marshall! With the focus on unwanted breakups and the components found in them, we will be going on this journey of breaking harmful misconceptions together!
For those of you who have no idea what this movie is about, here is a helpful description to help you along:
A guy gets dumped by his actor girlfriend and is so heartbroken, he can’t seem to let it go. In the hopes of trying to heal from the breakup, he goes on a trip to Hawaii, where he runs into his ex and her new man. While still trying to figure out if he wants his ex back or not, he creates a bond with another girl while all types of funny drama unfolds during the trip.
As I’m sure you can all agree, I’ve never been a predictable girl! That being the case, we will be focusing on understanding certain aspects of a breakup, not just breaking up as a general topic. From this movie, we will be breaking the misconceptions that:
- The person who breaks up with their partner will be unfazed by the situation.
- The person who breaks up with the other is a terrible person because they don’t want to be with their partner anymore.
I have provided two clips that will help you understand why these are really good misconceptions to break.
WARNING: SHITTY QUALITY CLIP BELOW
Other than the person recording having terrible camera using skills, the scene can make you believe that Sarah is a terrible person for not wanting to be with Peter anymore. Firstly, breakups are subjective and personal. This means that every situation is different, even if it seems similar to others, and they can bring out emotions based off of our own feelings. That being said, we must understand that we are human beings and, sometimes, intentionally or not, we can find someone else we want to be with when in a relationship. While there is a difference between actively searching and accidentally finding someone, there is still a chance for a person to break up with another and not be a terrible person because of this cause of breakup.
SIDE NOTE: THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT CHEATING, DISHONESTY, AND CREEPING ARE ACCEPTABLE WHEN FINDING SOMEONE ELSE. The acts are wrong, even if the ultimate decision does not make you a bad person.
WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CLIP IS REALLLLL RATED R. Please feel free to skip to 40 seconds and watch from there. It includes less sexual craziness and may not make you that uncomfortable. Also, just click the link if the video doesn’t work!!
Okay, bare with me! The reason I chose this clip over many others is because, in this scene, you see that both of the exes are putting on a show in order to affect the other. While we already knew Peter was affected by the breakup, we didn’t think that Sarah was too, since she broke up with him. That’s the misconception we need to break; that because you breakup with someone, it means you’ll be unfazed and not care. This is not true at all and, honestly, is unfair to both people in the relationship to think in this way. It is unfair to the person who gets dumped because you’re insinuating that they are easy to move on from, and its is unfair to the person who does the dumping because you are claiming they are just a terrible person.
We need to understand that, a lot of the times, no matter the situation, we will be fazed by ending a relationship. Regardless of the amount of time spent in the relationship, both people may feel something at some point or another because of the change of no longer being in the relationship. In many cases, people don’t show they are fazed by the change of the relationship until the other person is no longer paying mind to the change. For example, Sarah was fine and content with her new man until she saw the way in which Peter was with Rachel. At that point, she started to make it more and more obvious that, even if she says she wasn’t, she was affected by the breakup as well. It happens to the best of us and, no matter how hard we try to play it off, we are all affected in some shape or form from a breakup, even if not in the exact same way as our ex partner.
As we have reached the end of this post, I just want to make sure you’re all aware that, not everything works out the way we hope or expect it will. As being in relationships or thinking about getting into one, we must understand that, not all the time will be prepared for the end. We pray that the day will never come but, it very may might. While I cannot help you predict if it will, I can help you understand the aspects that make up unwanted breakups, and help you figure out which misconceptions to break int regards to them. Take the time you need to heal and understand that, while the other person may have hurt you, they too are affected by the situation and they aren’t an asshole because they decided to leave you.
PIECE OF ADVACE: Relationships are 50/50 chance things. There is a 50% chance that you guys will crash and burn at any given time, whether 2 hours in or 10 years together. And there is a 50% chance that you guys will make it through and stick it out. Regardless of which path your relationship is set to take, keep the lessons it taught you and learn from them. ❤
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