Hello my beautiful loves ❤ Since I’ve missed you since last time, I have provided you with a nice throwback treat this week! In order to switch things up, I have decided to go with another classic, except this time, its about an animation!

Growing up, we have all, at one point or another, watched or heard the stories of our popular Disney Princesses. This week in particular, we will be discussing the OG(original for those who don’t know what that means), 1991, Beauty and the Beast film! Just from watching the story of Belle and the Beast unfold, we can begin to see how we have gained misconceptions that shape our relationships from as young as our adolescent years.

Before we get started, here’s a breakdown of the movie for those of you who may have forgotten or have never seen it before:

Belle, an intelligent village girl, falls in love with a rich, cursed man who is transformed into a beast. After being kidnapped and held captive by the Beast, him and Belle develop a romantic relationship in which, after nearly dying from crazy village people, causes the Beast to transform into his human form again. In between this, there are talking objects, a rose with dying petals, books, dancing, singing, and a whole lot of interesting.

Let’s take a look at the first encounter between Belle and the Beast:

Now, I know you’re probably expecting me to talk about how the Beast is keeping her captive and that’s the start to their shitty relationship, however, I’m not!

I know, I know, but I got something better for you my loves. First, why Belle didn’t get the police or someone else to go with her, I have no idea. Why she was running in the woods all alone, I have no idea. Why this talking candleholder(Lumière) and clock(Cogsworth) set her up to encounter a clearly unhinged animal taking people as prisoner’s for the hell of it, I HAVE NO IDEA! What I do know, was that poor Belle was doomed from the beginning and, in turn, so were we.

This clip was so important because it gave you guys the first glimpse of Belle’s trifling, fake friends :)!! Lumière and Cogsworth, while they had no loyalty to Belle in this scene, do end up becoming her friend, along with others in the house, while she’s, yes, held captive. What many people tend to look pass is the fact that, they were working behind the scenes to get her to encounter the Beast. That….that’s a means for discussion. If you haven’t guessed by now, I’m going to help you break the misconceptions that all friends have good intentions when discussing or advising you on your relationship.

I know you’ve all have experienced, hmmmm how do I say this?…. AHHHH, yes! A FAKE ASS FRIEND!!!!! While we, unfortunately, have to go through some situations for us to uncover that they’re a fake ass friend, Belle never becomes lucky like us.

This clip below shows the lovely Mrs. Potts, and even Wardrobe (original name right? *rolls eyes*) also being trifling and fake 🙂

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNpxWngkCCk

Instead of being real friends and helping sis get the hell outta there, these ladies think providing her with tea and getting her pretty will help her along. Knowing what the Beast is like and knowing she is now his captive, everyone is super cheery and trying to convince Belle things will be alright…..FOH.

Number 1: Friends who willingly let you go through terrible situations without even attempting to give you cautious remarks are NOT REAL FRIENDS. Think about how many times your friend(s) has put themselves in a situation where you knew it had potential to be dangerous or negatively impact them somehow. Did y’all let your friends go with no warning, or did you simply tell them what’s up? If you didn’t, you’re an example of a fake friend and really should work on that 🙂

Number 2: Friends who tell you to go along with something because they may benefit from it are, say it with me, NOT REAL FRIENDS. Friends are not suppose to sacrifice you or your happiness just for self gain. All these talking inanimate objects are trying to convince you they really care about Belle, however, they really care about two things:

1. Getting the Beast to find love in order to change THEMSELVES BACK
2. Getting someone to make the Beast a happier furry being instead of the jackass he walks around being

All in all, you must understand that, as we go to friends for advice and sometimes guidance on our relationships, you should be aware what could set you up in said relationships. You need to break these misconceptions that friends always have your best intentions in mind and they are who they claim to be, so that you can ultimately, have a healthier and happier relationship. Knowing when a friend is really helping you when you’re in or thinking about getting in a romantic relationship, versus hurting you in said relationship, can be the moments that make your relationship a lot better.

As a final farewell, here’s two things to consider:

1. This is Stockholm Syndrome at it’s finest, so why do we show this to kids?!?
2. DROPPING THOSE FAKE ASS FRIENDS AND ONLY LISTENING TO THE REAL ONES CAN SAVE YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP!