Hello my loves ❤ Today is a sad day in the world of blogging!!! Today is my suppose to be my last post on this lovely blog but, you know me, I’m difficult. For all intents and purposes, let’s assume this is my last fun post…
With that being the case, I’m going out with a bang! As it was suggested by a certain individual many of us know, today we will be looking for the misconceptions found in the movie Love Actually. Hold on to your horses and let’s go for an emotionally charged ride!
All right, you guys know the drill! Here’s a little background information to get us all on the same page:
This movie follows about 9 couples around during the holidays, leading up to Christmas time. As their love stories range from couple to couple and character to character, they are somehow all intertwined. Due to every couple having their own plot, the main purpose of this movie is to show people the concept of love in its entirety; the struggles of it, the happiness, the solutions, the feelings and more. I’ve provided a trailer clip below if anyone is interested!!:
Couple 1
Below is a compilation of majority of Harry and Karen’s relationship:
Harry and Karen are a married couple who are going through some marriage difficulties because of Alan’s flirtation with his secretary. As this is a very real situation, there are misconceptions found as well. Mia, who is the secretary, is portrayed to be evil and malicious, where as, Harry is not portrayed badly to anyone other than is wife. SHES LITERALLY IN A DEVIL OUTFIT!!! The misconceptions we need to break are:
- that the “other woman/man” are maliciously interacting with your significant other.
- that men only have a small role in these kind of situations where the other woman/man has a bigger role.
Why do we continuously see the other woman/man as some evil being who is coming to destroy all words? While I understand that what that are doing it wrong, especially if they are aware of the others marriage or relationship, it does not necessarily make them an evil being. We need to understand that not everyone on this planet is the same and we all don’t think alike or have the same morals. As it is okay to feel a certain way about the individual who is partaking in this situation, we cannot paint them out to be a bad guy because they make the wrong, or less desirable, decision in our opinions.
As for the misconception that it is the other woman/man who has a bigger role in these issue….
While I do believe they are responsible for their actions and are also to blame in these situations, I do not believe that blaming them the most is appropriate. The person who is supposed to be loyal to you is your significant other, not the other person. As it would be nice to see respect from the other person and things of that nature, it does not necessarily mean that they have to show it. Your significant other is the one who pledged their loyalty to you and so, if they brake it and another person is involved, it is your duty to hold them most accountable.
Couple 2
Below is the only scene that matters between Juliet and Mark!:
SOOOOOOOO, from this, you don’t see much. Just a girl getting romanced by a guy and Christmas music softly playing in the background. Little do you know her whole husband is sitting on the couch and, outside, is her HUSBAND’S BEST FRIEND! The misconception here is that any of this is okay!!!! The best friend’s actions, Juliet’s actions, the situation itself! NONE OF IT!
Not only did this become a memorable part of the movie that people in real life have recreated, but we are all sitting here like awwwww this is so cute, when in actuality, its cheating. We need to understand we cannot romanticize everything, even when the romantic gestures from one is more appealing that that of the other
Also, that kiss at the end?!?!?!?!??! How does one kiss their husband’s best friend and then goes back to cuddle with their husband?!?!?! The messiness of it all. Please, don’t think that this is okay just because someone is nice enough to show you they love you better than your husband/wife can. If you think that is accurate and you want to act on it, go about getting a divorce instead of sneaking around and disrespecting your significant other.
In conclusion, this is a very interesting movie with a lot of different perspectives and lessons. There are many other love issues and even some non-intimate relationship love stories that one can look at and learn from. I picked these two love stories because, while it shows us topics we have previously talked about in my blogs, it sheds light on them in different ways than before. We need to break the misconceptions that the other person is the one to blame for when our significant others step out on us and we also need to understand that nice gestures and TLC from someone else doesn’t equal stepping out on another. I hope you’ve all gained a little bit more knowledge on how to navigate these type of situations, should they ever arise. Also, as the holiday season is approaching, please take into consideration the love you have, the love you’ve experienced, and, or, the love you hope to have. With that, you can go into the holidays knowing what it is you want or hope for in the new year and, hopefully, with the knowledge from this blog, you can actually get it without the bs.
Don’t Watch These Movies! 
I loved your blog and will miss reading it so much! I loved the movie you picked but it was also insane with the all the relationship misconceptions! I totally agree with you about the whole secretary situation! The husband is at fault too!
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DON’T MAKE ME CRY PLEASE!!!!! THANKS!!!!! I’m glad to hear that you agree with me over the nonsense misconceptions found in the movie. Can we say, double standard!!
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Never heard of this movie until now. That’s crazy that the movie actually follows around 9 couples! Must be hard to keep up with, lol! Harry and Karen’s story is insane, I feel bad for Karen but Harry should definitely be held responsible for the affair. But anyway, I had a great time reading your blog this semester and I’m going to miss your posts 😦 You did a really great job overall with explaining the flaws in certain movies when it comes to relationships.
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It’s definitely is an interesting movie and the 9 couples are entertaining to look at!! Not necessarily hard to keep up with but you totally need to pay attention as to not miss anything! Harry and Karen’s story broke my heart and I felt bad for Karen too. Thank you so much for the compliment and I promise you, these aren’t tears falling on my laptop, LMAO! Thank you for telling me that I executed the blog correctly and that I set out to do what I hoped! Thank you 🙂
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I LOVE this movie!!!!!! I always watch it around christmas time and Hugh Grant is just UGH dreamy. I totally agree people always want to go after the person their significant other is flirting/cheating with and I feel like their significant other never really gets the full brunt of it which is totally unfair! That person is supposed to care about you so whyare you getting so mad at the other party in this situation. I love movies that follow a bunch of different characters that all end up related somehow! I’m so sad I’m not going to be reading these every week anymore 😦 great job girl
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LOL we always seem to be on the same page!! I don’t necessarily know what it is, but there is something about Hugh Grant that I absolutely love to no end! I literally cannot explain it ahaha. It is totally unfair and honestly, I think people do it because it’s easier. They would rather blame the other person than to confront their significant other and finally understand that, they aren’t as perfect as they seemed. That was also my favorite part, that they were all connected somehow!! And awww stop!! Thank you so much for being a constant supporter on my page ❤ the love is real 🙂
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Yeah this movie seems to encourage people’s suspicions of the “other man/woman” as well as creating false stereotypes about your significant other not having a big role in these situations. Never watched the movie but it sounds like a good movie nevertheless!
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This movie is def interesting and filleted with issues. Getting to look at 9 different couples really makes for a more enjoyable movie and, with that, more lessons are learned. Its def a good movie, just not a good movie relationship wise!
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I KNOW YOU DID NOT COME FOR MY FAVORITE MOVIE AS YOUR LAST HOORAH!!!!! I can understand where you’re coming from and how messy some of the romances in this film are… but that is ALL the negative I will say about it! This movie is an international TREASURE and should be treated as such! Keira Knightley! Alan Rickman! Hugh Grant! Colin Firth! Emma Thompson! Liam Neeson!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A TREASURE! Anyway, I’ll miss your blogs of course, your insight is ALMOST always refreshing, just really broke my heart with this one!
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Hehehehehehehe!!!!! I am sorry but what is done is done and, I did say in my mission statement that I’m coming for everyone’s favs lol!!!!! LMAOOOO that’a okay, as long as you’re aware that there are some crazy misconceptions flying around in an, other wise good movie, than everything is alright! LOL it def has an allstar cast that makes the movie more enjoyable! LOL I’m glad to hear thatI will be missed even if my insight for today’s will not ahahaha! I hope your heart gets mended soon ❤
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As always, I loved your post! I hate how when a relationship gets rotten, people pin the blame only onto 1 person. Especially in the cheating scenario! I mean it takes 2 hands to clap. I actually really liked this movie when I watched it. And one of the people that I ended up not really “liking” was Juliet because of what you pointed out. I didn’t understand why she would kiss another guy when her husband was right there. It just felt so wrong! Lol. No matter what the relationship, I feel that the people involved in it are responsible or making sure that they pull their own weight in the relationship. The second that either of the individuals begin to take advantage of each other is when things go wrong. With that being said, I am going to miss your blog! I am not in a relationship, but if I ever am in one, I am definitely going to use some of the tips you provided. Thank you for all the wonderful posts!
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