Welcome back my loves!! ❤ Spooky Szn is officially over and now, it’s back to our regularly scheduled program of movies that don’t give me anxiety LMAO. I must admit, this is one of those movies that has a special place in my heart and, if I had to say, is at the top of my list for cheesy, guilty pleasure movies. That being said, it was hard deciding to pick this movie, however, it’s a perfect example of a movie NOT to watch when in, or thinking about getting in, a relationship. So, without further or do, get ready to learn about the misconceptions present in, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before.
For those of you who haven’t seen this movie, below is a description of all you need to know:
A cute, to herself girl. A whole box of letters to previous loves. A whole lot of drama. A hot, kind boy. A fake relationship with shy girl and hot boy. A bunch of real emotions. A whole lot of drama again. A revelation moment. A happy ever after.
Now, while this movie is a great teen movie to watch to get butterflies all over again, it is filled with a lot of misconceptions that need to be broken. The first one can be found in the clip below:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gglVQgCsyqE
Do you know how many times I have waited for a hot boy to come up to me and ask me to be his pretend girlfriend so that, eventually, he can see he loves me and we can then, live happily ever after in a real relationship?!?!?!?! Sadly, to many times to count and this movie here, does a great job bringing those misconceptions back to light. We must start to understand that just because things happen in movies, it does not mean they will happen in real life.
The misconception found here is that you will have a chance like this in high school, or any time in your life, for this type of proposition to happen to you. I know its hard to grasp but, unless you’re apart of an escort service or helping your friend out with their strict/crazy parents, the chances of this happening are slim to known. I know most of you are saying, “this could happen” and blah blah blah, but we all know the truth. I’m still waiting for someone to tell me that this has happened to them.
We must understand that high school scenarios in movies like this aren’t actually high school scenarios, and they definitely, will not find there way to adulthood either. We all wait throughout high school, and even as adults, to find ourselves in a scenario like this. The truth of the matter is, watching movies like this have you hoping and dreaming for things that, more often that not, never happen. I’m still waiting for a Peter Kavinsky to sweep me off my feet and proposition me with the relationship of a lifetime.
Let’s take a look at another clip!!
Peter and Lara Jean’s first party together is one those perfect moments where I can call out another misconception!!!! First, did anyone notice how NICE that house was?!?! Like wth! Compared to our basement parties, adult parties, and even high school parties at someone’s house, I’ve never seen a house that nice for a high school party. But that’s just me.
The misconception here is that, it’s okay to put just about anything on social media. Do you see how many times both Lara Jean and Peter take pictures of one another, and then, post it on their social media? Is this far fetched from our society today? I think not.
We, as a technologically advanced society, have continuously placed the “better” versions of ourselves on social media. This movie is showing you how both individuals knowingly put versions of one another on their social media, even though the versions they put up, aren’t actually true.
We must understand that we don’t always have to put things on social media. Also, we must comprehend that when in a relationship, we don’t always need to broadcast said relationship on our social media. More often than not, we look to social media for validation and acknowledgment that our relationships are real and happy. Breaking this misconception, that social media needs to be a considered aspect go your relationship, will help make your relationship less structured and planned, and instead, more natural.
Finally, you can see that, while certain movies are great ones to watch, when in a relationship or thinking of getting into one, they should be avoided. You must break the misconceptions that:
- social media is an important aspect of relationships
- that we can expect for the same situations that are found in movies to happen in real life
Once these misconceptions are broken, you’ll find that you’re relationship will be better off and, you may fin yourself a Lara Jean or Peter Kavinsky in a more realistic way!
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OMG I LOVED THIS MOVIE!! It was the most cutest thing ever. However, it was VERY unrealistic but omg i laughed when you said you were waiting for someone to come and ask you to be their fake gf!! I can relate LOL. I loved your blog and I can’t wait for next weeks!
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THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVS!!!! Has a special place in my heart! And lmaooooooo I really am waiting for this to happen to me. If it does, this post will be deleted or updated saying its happened ahaha.
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This was a good read! I’ve heard of this movie but never watched it so I’m glad I got to somewhat experience it through reading your post. Fake relationships make me laugh so much though, reminds me of those PR celebrity couples lol. I liked it when you related your post to technology (aka the theme of this class) and I especially liked the point you made about social media and relationships. I know from personal experience that social media can definitely make or break your relationship, and I caution my friends to not share everything on there or else one day they’ll regret it and end up deleting EVERYTHING like I did a few months ago. Either way, I appreciate the advice you gave at the end of the post and thank you!
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I’m glad to hear you liked it 🙂 and thank you for noticing my connection to the class for this post!! Also, sometimes its good to detach from social media so, I hope your purge goes well 🙂
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I AM OBSESSED WITH THIS MOVIE. Like absolutely fell in love with this movie the first time I watched it even though it is super cheesy and ish. I loved how you broke down all of the common misconceptions from this movie though. I think it is important to realize that even though this may be good entertainment, it might not happen in real life. Great post!! 🙂
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ME TOOOOO!!!! You are nottttt alone!!!! Look at how many letters and exclamation points I’m using aha! That;s how much I love this movie. Thank you for your feedback 🙂
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This was a such a cute movie that I enjoyed watching but I agree that it’s super inaccurate. None of this stuff would actually happen in real life and it was very predictable. I’m glad you brought up the aspect of social media because that’s definitely that pertains to our current society. We always swear two people are the perfect couple and “goals”, but in reality they go through the same hardships we all do, and for all we know they could be faking it.
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Thank you for bringing the idea of “goals” up!! What does that even mean anyways because honestly, the couple will be eating and people will be like goals….ITS NOT GOALS, YOU EAT THE SAME WAY!!! Smh, but I agree with you that, there is a big chance they could be faking. My friend and her bf would argue EVERY SINGLE DAY, but on social media, you would never tell they low-key hated each others’ guts.
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i loved this movie but it definitely does perpetuate some harmful misconceptions. also, i was also thinking wtf at that huge house they partied in.. so fake lol
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I totally paused the movie when I first watched it to stare at the house. I was in such disbelief I just had to comment on it and see if anyone else noticed ahah! Glad to see I’m not the only one!
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I have heard that this movie is amazing from so many people but I’ve never gotten around to watching it. I got nervous when I started reading this that there were going to be spoilers but you just made me want to watch it more. I’m not in a relationship so I’m definitely going to watch it and cry about my love life very soon. :’) I love how you point out the issues with movies like this because they really do give people false hope and unrealistic expectations and it sucks to have that type of thing put into your head whether you’re in a relationship or not!
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WATCH AND READ IT!!!! I swear it will be worth it! Just don’t take the misconceptions with you!! It’s okay girl! I am in a relationship and I still cried about my love life AHAHAHAHAH. Thank you for your feedback 🙂
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Your post made me laugh!!! I loved reading it! I remember the numerous “high school” movies that my friends and I used to watch, and every single one was about a girl falling for the boy or vice versa. It was almost as if telling us that there is no other thing to achieve in high school than a degree and the “perfect boyfriend.” Forget the movies, an entire section of my library was filled with books that followed the same plot lines…the only things that changed were the names of the characters and places. I think that it is because of the stereotypes that all these movies instill, that many people are unable to find the “perfect relationship.” Looking forward to your next post!
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I totally agree and you made some points I hadn’t even considered!! I read so many books and you’re right!! Sometimes, it will be the same plot just different characters and things like that. I know watching movies like that definitely had me expecting for my relationship to be like them…smh. lol.
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Yeah this post has a good point about not relating movies to real life. Especially for “To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before”, and a lot of other movies that take place in high schools. A lot of the aspects and traits we see of these movie high schools share common similarities but in the end they usually don’t match our real experiences in school.
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You’re totally right!! And because people are still impressionable in high school, we need to be vert careful of the messages we send out in these movies.
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I didnt know this movie existed, it looks entertaining. You bring excellent and true points. Most HS movies I have seen are not realistically accurate, growing up I never attended a house party with a pool and of that size, it is just not real for the rest of us. These misconceptions you mentioned are all issues that these movies propagate, and is good how you break them apart and expose them. This does’t mean that the movie is bad, but that it has problematic elements that some viewers, specially the younger, tend to take as facts.
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If you’re into cheesy, romantic, cute, high school movies, watch it!!! Its totally a great movie in my opinion, just not a great movie if you’re in a relationship or thinking of getting into one. And thank you for your feedback 🙂
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I love this post, I watched this movie with my boyfriend and we were both laughing at how unrealistic it was but we thought it was cute nonetheless haha. Your points about social media are great and very relatable because my boyfriend and I were actually getting into slight arguments over what pictures to post of each other on our social medias!! It wasn’t anything serious but the fact that it came up just goes to show that social media can cause problems if you take it too seriously. Good job!
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Its interesting to hear that, with your boyfriend, you both were able to gain the unrealistic aspects from the movie! That’s awesome to hear and honestly, very shocking! I know couples who have watched it and it did not end well because the other person doesn’t “do that” in the relationship ahaha. I totally understand that!! In the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend, I would get mad because he wouldn’t post me on snapchat often enough ahahahah. Its funny but sad to hear at the same time. Thank you for the feedback 🙂
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I LOVE THIS MOVIE!!!!! its corny and cheesey but seriously such a feel good movie. Plus noah whatever his name is is really really hot lmao. I love the way you talked about how social media impacts relationships I think it’s a little dumb but when you think about it social media is such a huge part of our life and culture its weird! I loved the way you talke about how unrealistic these types of movies are, highschool definitely does NOT go down like it does in the movies and the cute boy rarely ever likes you back lmao. but really great job this week I was cracking up the whole time!!
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Interesting post. I just love that the movie stayed pretty accurate to the book and that they did not white wash it! And Lara Jean is super relatable.
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It did stay pretty accurate, which was awesome!
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